Monday, 6 September 2021

Overcoming the fear of public speaking

 

How to overcome the fear of public speaking

 


Fear of public speaking stems from anxiety. It can range from slight nervousness to paralyzing fear and panic. Many people with this fear avoid public speaking situations altogether, or they suffer through them with shaking hands and a quavering voice. But with preparation and persistence, you can overcome your fear.

These steps may help:


  • Know your topic: 
 Take time to understand  the topic you will be talking about — this makes it less likely to make a mistake or get off track. Even if you do, you'll be able to recover quickly. Take some time to consider what questions the audience may ask and have your responses ready.

 

  • Get organized. 
Ahead of time, carefully plan out the information you want to present, including any props, audio or visual aids. The more organized you are, the less nervous you'll be. Use an outline on a small card to stay on track. If possible, visit the place where you'll be speaking and review available equipment before your presentation.

 

  • Practice, and then practice some more. 
Practice your complete presentation several times. Do it for some people you're comfortable with and ask for feedback. It may also be helpful to practice with a few people with whom you're less familiar. Consider making a video of your presentation so you can watch it and see opportunities for improvement.


  • Challenge specific worries. 
When you're afraid of something, you may overestimate the likelihood of bad things happening. List your specific worries. Then directly challenge them by identifying probable and alternative outcomes and any objective evidence that supports each worry or the likelihood that your feared outcomes will happen.

 


  • Visualize your success. 
Imagine that your presentation will go well. Positive thoughts can help decrease some of your negativity about your social performance and relieve some anxiety.

 

  • Do some deep breathing. 
This can be very calming. Take two or more deep, slow breaths before you get up to the podium and during your speech.

 

  • Focus on your material, not on your audience. 
People mainly pay attention to new information — not how it's presented. They may not notice your nervousness. If audience members do notice that you're nervous, they may root for you and want your presentation to be a success.

 

  • Don't be scared of  silence. 
If you lose track of what you're saying or start to feel nervous and your mind goes blank, it may seem like you've been silent for an eternity. In reality, it's probably only a few seconds. Even if it's longer, it's likely your audience won't mind a pause to consider what you've been saying. Just take a few slow, deep breaths.

  • Recognize your success. 
After your speech or presentation, congratulate yourself. It may not have been perfect,  but practice makes perfect. See if any of your fears actually occurred. Everyone makes mistakes. Look at any mistakes you made as an opportunity to improve your skills.

 

  • Get help. 
Join a gathering that offers support for individuals who experience issues with public speaking. eg. fellowship, student groups, stand up shows etc.

 

 

Nervousness or anxiety in certain situations is normal, and public speaking is no exception. Known as performance anxiety, other examples include stage fright, test anxiety and writer's block. But people with severe performance anxiety that includes significant anxiety in other social situations may have social anxiety disorder (also called social phobia). Social anxiety disorder may require cognitive behavioral therapy, medications or a combination of the two.

Sunday, 5 September 2021

6 Things to Know that Nobody cares

 


1. Just know that nobody cares, and if they do, you shouldn’t care that they care.

Got a new house? Nobody cares. You’ll get some congratulations for a couple of time—they don’t care. They’re curious. Some days and it’ll be just another old news among all the thousands of others that came down the  streets. People will care about your as long as it benefits them. Got a new car? New shoes? Went to a nice restaurant? Exotic vacation? Nobody cares. Don’t base your happiness on people’s opinions, because they don't care. And if they do, they either want your stuff or hate you for it.

2. Some people will break rule number one.

When you talk about all you have or can do or stand for, they will look into your eyes and drench your words, and in that moment you will know the basic principle of relationship (Communication) has been broken already.

3. Spend more time with rulebreakers.

Stick to them. Be their friends. Work with them No matter how much power you get remember leeches do not ask who their hosts are, just flow and take care not to care too much.

4. Money is actually cheap.

I want to tell you something, you are struggling today because you wonder what people thing about your hustle. Public opinion is your downfall. It is about the money, don't be ashamed of your hustle, nobody cares how you made it- just make it anyway the right way.

5. Learn the art of rhetoric.

Do not take everything to heart, laugh over them and let it pass. There are teaser, people pleasers and people who mean business, know the differences and learn how to deal will each character. Learn not to want to answer every question, just laugh and move. 

 6. You need and don’t need  people.

You need others one might say that you should be part of a community—there's a reason we easily feel sorry for loners. Despite your hypothesis of anthropogenesis, it's difficult to deny that we   work  in a community, and that 'we' is in every case more than 'me.' However, you needn't bother with someone else's to  give your life meaning. If nothing else. Set up your own life—then, at that point, in case there's a specific individual that you can't resist the urge to incorporate, trust me, you'll know.